I’ve had quite a few ideas for posts lately, but they’ve all been too short to warrant an entire post to themselves. So, I’ve been building them up and am ready (maybe) to post them all in a decently-sized blog post.
I recently read I Kissed Dating Goodbye and Boy Meets Girl, by Joshua Harris. I found, as expected, that these books didn’t have anything in them that I didn’t already know, but I believe it was good for me to read them if only for them to serve as a reminder of what we’re not doing. However, I think I gained several questions from there that I will one day ask the man who makes it passed my father. Of course, they’re probably questions Daddy will ask him too.
I’ve spent this week kind of defining my “new year’s resolutions.” I’ve still not got them well-defined, but here they are (and y’all can help me stick to them, if you will!):
- I decided to get all the fabric I amassed in 2008 sewn up before the end of this year. I know, it sounds ridiculous, but I got an inordinate amount of fabric on the last two trips to Sir’s.
- I’m going to try to become more faithful in my time with the Lord. Not just prayer, but spend more time studying the Scriptures. This is something I used to be better at than I am now.
- I need to continue to work towards more edifying speech and behavior. This especially means significantly dulling (?) my sharp tongue…
- This last one is entirely dependent on the Lord, but I thought maybe if I include it in my resolutions… Well, I can hope anyway. The last one is to get the house sold, a new place determined/bought, and a solid well-paying job for Daddy preferably from home. Hey, if I’m gonna hope, why not go all the way?!!
Ready for some randomness?
I came up with a brilliant business idea, but nobody’s taking me seriously. So, I place before y’all this brilliance!
Straw Bosses Incorporated
Whatcha think? Kyle’s thought up an extension to this business already, but since it wasn’t my idea, I do not feel free to expound.
I got a key chain camera for Christmas!!! You know, the ones that are like $9.00 from Wal-mart. It takes lousy pictures, but I really only want it for when we’re on the road and see corny-cheesy church signs (or other signs. Churches just seem particularly prone to that). I also got keys!
I went to town (just Viola) all by my lonesome for the first time this week. Mama was still worried. I sometimes wonder if my parents will worry about me when I’m their age, and they’re grandparents. Probably. I’m sure my grandparents sometimes worry about the strange direction we’ve taken.
I’m finally getting around (my laziness) to sewing the tiered girl’s dress. It will probably (hopefully) turn out to be beautiful, but I have already learned that I hate thoroughly dislike sewing tiers. Two down, four (I believe) to go. Sewing each of these tiers is like sewing a single skirt… six times. I dislike hemming anyway, but doing a teeny-tiny hem six times is extremely distasteful. I believe this pattern will be going in the eBay pile when I’m done with it.
I typed out our church change history from pretty much as far back as I can remember to where we are today. That however, would interest very few people, so I decided not to post it.
I’m going to take the poll down. As is only right, in my opinion, Sense and Sensibility won! Mansfield Park and Northanger Abbey got only 1 vote each. Mansfield Park or Persuasion would probably have gotten my second vote, but MP is, I think, the least known of the Austen novels.
This past year confirmed my decision that a cold-natured person (that’s an understatement) can thoroughly enjoy ice cream at any time of the year. Maybe that’s strange, but I can’t help it.
And here is a random picture. I apologize for completely forgetting it on the previous three posts.

A strange picture from our barn raising almost three years ago.
January 8, 2009 at 8:39 pm
If you haven’t seen it already, you might want to take a look at my blog where I critique Harris’s book. One of my biggest concerns with the book is that he gives a one sided view on his philosophy almost like a salesman selling a product. He “forgets” to mention the defects of his approach and the problems it has caused over the years.
http://www.ikdg.wordpress.com
“I Kissed Dating Goodbye: Wisdom or Foolishness?”
If my blog does nothing else but makes one think about this alternative vs. blindly accepting it as better then it has served its purpose.
January 9, 2009 at 8:02 am
Thank you for taking the time to comment.
I understand that courtship is not for everyone, but it is the path that my parents and I have, with much prayer, decided on for our family. Joshua Harris’ book was just one of the stepping stones that led my parents to this decision.
I’m sure courtship has its defects. Everything does. I do not, at this point, agree with you, but hopefully we can agree to disagree.
January 9, 2009 at 10:47 am
Reformedgirl
I am glad that you are at least acknowledging that courtship has its own sets of defects. Unfortunately many who promote it and “kissing dating goodbye” don’t do that.
I think agreeing to disagree is the best.
January 9, 2009 at 6:02 pm
Great picture, if I might say so myself. I probably thought I was taking a straight one…
January 9, 2009 at 8:18 pm
Reformed Girl
One other thought. “Courtship” can mean a number of things. It can go from parental “betrothal” to a form of dating. What type of courtship are you adopting for yourself?
Steve
January 13, 2009 at 9:53 am
Steve,
Your question seems to imply that I have adopted a certain formula for courtship. Believe me, this is not so. Though I have no experience, I believe that courtship can take many forms depending on the situation. I think that when you bring together two individuals and their families, each with particular understandings and unique circumstances, you can’t help but have vastly different courtships. Wisdom may direct a courtship to take any number of forms, and they will likely be particular to that courtship.
I have looked at dating as it is implemented in today’s society, and have found it to be a self-serving, careless sport fraught with many pitfalls. I understand that not all dating is this way, but many seem to be. I hope and pray for a courtship that will have the building of God-honoring relationships as its means, and God-honoring marriage as its end. I know that perfection is not attainable this side of glory, and so I don’t expect to find a perfect definition of “courtship.”
January 13, 2009 at 8:46 pm
Reformed Girl
I am glad to hear that you aren’t trying to adopt or follow a particular pattern or forumula. I think that is one “landmine” that occurs with courtship.
One also needs to be careful about being reactionary to perceived problems with dating vs. responding.